Be the type of person that you wish to attract

If I had a dollar for every time I have met or known a girl who has talked about her "future husband and wedding" I'd have lots of extra spending money in the bank. I'm not referring to those normal girlfriend chats about the future; I'm talking about the girls who are so focused on their "incomplete life" because they don't have a husband, kids, and the house with a white picket fence.

 

Here's a tip

Ladies, if you're being needy then understand that it's not attractive, and whining or complaining won't bring your Mister Right any faster. If anything, it will make the guys run the other way.

 

It's a normal desire to want those things, especially when you feel like everyone else around you is already in that season of life. No one wants to feel left out or as though something is wrong with them.

Maybe you have even heard this said to you: "I know why you aren't married: You're just TOO picky!!" If you are considered picky then I say kudos to you!! It's what I refer to as having standards. (All within reason of course. Imagining you're next in line to marry Mr. A-List Celebrity isn't very realistic.) I encourage women all the time to set good, healthy standards (respectful, good morals, trustworthy, etc) and the rest will fall into place.

Don't be the girl who needs a man. Be the girl a man needs.

I wonder how many people are in relationships or marriages that wish they would have been more "picky" when they were dating. And if you have never thought about the standards you desire in a spouse, I encourage you to think about it.

If your wedding bells haven’t rung yet, I encourage you to stay true to yourself.  Use this time to become the best version of you that you can be. Marriage is designed to be forever. I’ve never heard anyone (yet) say that the process of divorce was the best time of their life, so patience will be worth the wait in the long run.

I'm beyond grateful that I waited because my husband was absolutely worth the wait. The lust and infatuation with someone fades quickly in due time, so there must be more substance to the foundation in the relationship.